Mom of 3 pressures husband into having a 4th baby after they'd previously agreed to stop at 3: 'I wouldn’t have a strong connection to the baby because I didn’t want another baby in the first place'

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Emmy Pratt • Senior Editor
Jul 1, 2025 8:00 PM EDT

There's a difference between kid people and baby people. Baby people love having babies. They always want someone to cuddle with who depends on them for everything. Babies might cry and scream for their basic needs, but they are less complicated than kids who can talk and demand exactly what they want. Kid people aren't as enthused about the baby stage. Sure, they think babies are cute and all, but they like the phase of parenting when kids can hold a conversation. It's fascinating to watch children's personalities develop through different stages of life. Kid people would never utter the phrase, "I wish you would stay little forever." 

I'm not saying it's better to be a kid person than a baby person, but baby people need to know when to stop having kids. It's not healthy to prioritize having a fresh new baby over the needs of your older kids.

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    AITAH for telling my wife I don’t want anymore kids?

    Me (31M) and my wife (28F) have 3 kids together, 2 boys and 1 girl. About 1 year ago after our last child was born, we discussed if we wanted anymore kids. We both agreed on no more kids because having another child when we already have 3 children is enough for us. Okay, so last night my wife started going on and on about wanting another baby, showing
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  • The mom in this story is a baby person who could spiral out of control. She has friends and social media influencers in her ear telling her that she needs to keep having babies to fulfill her, even though she and her husband had previously agreed to stop at three.

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    me baby Tiktok's, and nursery photos. I reminded her about the fact that we already agreed on having no more kids, and even if i did want another baby it wouldn't work out money wise because our 2 boys already play sports and we are planning on putting our little girl in a sport also. (if you know, you know sports ain't cheap
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    I listened to her rant for about 20 minutes, saying how once the baby was born I wouldnt regret saying yes, and how she will refuse to have kids after a certain age if i ever asked again.
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    I just flat out told her, no. We agreed on what we agreed on already, and I just dont want anymore kids. And I also wouldn't have a strong connection to the baby because i didn't want another baby in the first place.
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    She got up stomping her feet upstairs and locked herself in our room. When it was time for bed she sighed everytime i tried to talk to her and ignored me.
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    I dont get it, we already agreed on not having anymore kids. Am i being a j or what? like I am. I feel
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    Just Appointment5353 She's talking about it as if you're getting a new dining room set or something sh
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    Hot Huckleberry65666 Seriously. The children they already have are going to have a worse life because they won't be able to provide for them. Why doesnt she care about that?
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    Internal-Maize 7340 Dude, go and get snipped asap, or soon you'll discover that her birth control magically "failed"
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    ConstantLuxury Nta; she's letting herself be influenced by TikTok and the emotional high that comes with it, but she's not thinking about the effect it's gonna have on your family and your finances. Honestly, you guys need to sit down and have a conversation because if she decides to get pregnant without a serious talk, it's gonna s k all around for all of you
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    Pure_Mongoose5188 OP I think that is what's happening, there aint a second where shes not on Tiktok watching traditional wives taking care of their babies. I swear that trad wife Tiktok sh is brainwashing. Im going to have a talk with her tonight. Maybe she can see were not fit for another baby.
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    Sure_Flamingo_2792 Are you sure she isn't already pregnant and trying to ease into the discussion? I'd make sure you take charge of your own birth control as well. NTA
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    UndebateableMom NTA - I see this so many times. Kids start to get older. Mom misses the cuddly baby / early toddler stage. Talk to her about what she's missing and why she changed her mind.
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    HeaEuroShrub Keep in mind that it doesn't stay a baby forever. If she wants to cuddle/take care of babies, there are jobs where she can do that.
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    OP updated the masses on his situation after reading the comments

    Well i posted this like an hour ago, didn't expect all the comments, but I really appreciate yalls help and advice. I do plan on having a serious talk with her when i get home. And about the vasectomy comments, i planned on getting one after our baby girl was born & we had both decided on no more kids. I do plan on
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    getting one sometime soon because we are not fit for another baby, and i dont want to accidentally get her pregnant. Thanks for the advice, i appreciate all of yall. I might update yall if I dont forget, matter of fact I dont think i will the way my phone is blowing up from all of these comments
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    For everyone saying my wife has a mental illness, please stop. Either you agree or disagree with me, or give some advice/insight, don't be talking r de about my wife.
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    Okay, update. Got home from work and me and my wife had a deep conversation. It felt nice really talking to my wife on such a deep level. We decided to go on a walk around this little park near our home and it was very nice.
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    We really opened up to eachother. Her friends were the main influence. They're also on that trad mormon Tiktok and they convinced my wife that she should have another baby because "Thats what God put her on this earth to do". I told my
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    wife I respect her, and being a mother may be one part of your life, and it's meaningful, but it's not the only thing that gives you worth or purpose.
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    It made me angry that her "friends" really told her thats what she was put on this earth to do, and that its her only purpose to have babies.
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    She is a creative woman, shes funny, kind, and very intelligent. It hurt me to think that having babies is her only purpose when there is so much more about her.
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    Were home now eating chocolate covered almonds and popcorn while watching a funny movie. I We love seeing her laugh. understand eachother now on a much deeper level than before.
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    I love my wife. And to all the comments that said we should get a dog, we might. She's thinking a golden retriever. Thank you for all the advice.
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